Re: How to block AIM with Linksys router and Zone Alarm

From: Stupified (neosadist@hotmail.com)
Date: 01/12/03 

From: "Stupified" <neosadist@hotmail.com>
Date: Sun, 12 Jan 2003 06:37:09 -0600

"mhicaoidh" <mhic_aoidh@hotmail.NïX.com.SPäM> wrote in message
news:Ro7U9.45385$3v.7594@sccrnsc01...
> Taking a moment's reflection, Stupified mused:
> |
> | Screw that. She's your daughter. If you can PROVE that she's still
using
> | it, ground her, and take the computer from her room and lock it up.
DUH!
> | You parent, she daughter. I'm not advocating violence. In fact, I'm
> | advocating the use of parental controls: ultimate control would be to
> | remove her computer.
>
> ...and some parents wonder why their children grow up to resent them.

So? Who cares? Parents said no AIM. She refuses to obey. Who is
responsible if she gets taken advantage of? Who is responsible if the
computer is hacked and someone starts stalking their daughter? Who is
responsible for the moral and physical wellbeing of their daughter? The
parents, NOT the state and NOT the government. If more parents did their
jobs, the state and government wouldn't have to do it for them.

> You would advocate all of that merely because she is "talking to
strangers"
> on an instant messaging program. Strangers to whom? The parents?

Strangers to everyone. Like I said, you can lie on a profile. If she's
never physically met them (i.e. she doesn't go to school with them, etc)
then they are strangers.

> Sounds to me more like an open dialogue is called for to ease
everyone's
> concerns ... rather than just "don't do it because I said so." Find out
> whom she is talking to, and (generally) what they talk about.

Dude, I understand this. But they didn't ask for advice on how to have an
open forum. He wants to know how to get his daughter to stop using it, and
probably cause he's already tried to be nice and ask her politely, and had
open forums. I know I gave my parents a hard time growing up as well.
Probably almost all of us did. It's life. I respect my parents today far
more than I respect my wife's parents. My parents were nice, but they were
firm and they stood their ground. I didn't listen to all they said when I
became a man and struck out on my own. I wish I had. But they don't hold
it against me.

> Be interested
> not invasive. Voice your concerns, and allow her to respond. If it is
> obvious she is in a danger zone, and still unresponsive to your feelings,
> then resort to more Draconian measures.
>
>

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